THE COMPANION

The Companion 

Over the last few months we have been talking allot about depression and anxiety - and all that goes and comes with them. Its causes and its horrid pain. We discussed how depression and anxiety is rooted  ultimately in thee “Alone Differential”. We discovered that much of our depression is rooted in fear and most of our fear is rooted in anxiety and most of our anxiety is rooted in simply the torment of being alone in a world with too many people. Its facing daily life with too many decision‘s, choices, obstacles, consequence, and daily existence conundrums. We discussed how just having to deal with all of this life “stuff” alone was the biggest of issues. We even fantasized about having this magical person who would knock on your door and say-”Hi my name is Bob, I will be taking care of things from this time forward. I will be handling all the concerns and important choices you have to make. Even going with you to the store holding your hand so you don’t have to deal with your social issues. I will take care of all of life’s paper work , people issues,  Family issues , relationship issues and life concerns“. Wow we decided- what a blessing that would be. To have someone who would tell you who to date, marry, - what job to take what phone calls to make what to ware and where to live. They would lay out your whole future for you and all you would have to do is trust them and believe that they had your best interest at heart. 

So anyway after thinking about this idea and concept I felt it was time to start introduce this person and what we might call him. I think a good start with be -”The Companion”. 

Now this person would not be a mate or business partner but a life coach. But more then a life coach as they can only advise and suggest- no this person would be infallible, without fault, perfect, always there, never late, and more- they would be completely free of charge. But lets take it up a notch. Lets add to the mix that they would be personally omnipresent, meaning they would be with you at all places at all times.

From when you got up in the morning to getting dress, to leaving the house, going to a party, -everywhere you went they went. Also to really sweeten the pot, they would always have your best interest in mind. They would think of you, worry about you, care about you, and have on top of it all your perfect life plan. But lets take it up even further; not only are they personally omnipresent , they are also personally all powerful  (Omnipotent) - but even more they would be All knowing ( Omniscient.)  Meaning that they always knew the right thing to do making it impossible to make a mistake in your life.

When it came to what medications to take, or get off of or how much to take. When it came to what your future career would be and in what place-well they already knew the answer. 

I don’t know about you but that would surely end allot of my depression fears and worries. So for today I want to focus on “This COMPANION”. 

Who may he or she be ? What if there were one ?

What if it really was true ?

What if its just a fairytale and a tease ?

Well stick with this blog as we take this up a notch each month..

S.R.K

Counselor Th,A -Th.B -M.M.C.C.

Member New York State Mental Health Counselors Association U.S.A.

Author of three Books on emotional issues like

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Thee ALONE differential

Thee  ALONE differential 

If being Alone is the sickness

then

What is the cure ?

As we discussed last time we were together - that being alone is a big part of depression and anxiety. Sometimes being alone brings us to depression and anxiety. Doesn’t really matter , what matters is that depression and anxiety have a thin blue line running through them called loneliness. In many ways fear is rooted in being alone. Think about this; when your afraid of the dark, is it not because you are alone ? When your afraid of a new job or traveling or a new relationship, is it not because you don’t know how to handle these situations and if you just had “someone” besides you as your advocate it would make life allot easier. Many times in my profession of a counselor and one who suffers from anxiety and depression- I find that what most people want is for someone to take them by the hand and walk them through life. Someone to deal with all the issues for them. Someone to run interception and be there for all the fears and details of life. Someone to just come to your door and say- “High my name is Bob, I will be your personal advocate and from this day forward, I will be taking care of all your issues fears and concerns from this point forward. From paper work to getting you a job to helping you make tough choices. I will be your forever friend and someone you can trust. I will never leave you or forget you. I will be there when you get up in the morning and all through the day. Not one single minute of your life will I NOT be there for you. When you look to the left- I am there, when you look to the right I am there. I will hug you when you need one, and I will push you and encourage you when you need that to”. 

Now I bet already your feeling good just hearing this concept. I bet your saying like I am thinking -”Hum- that would be great to have someone like that, I would feel so much better knowing that- I am NOT ALONE”. 

Well anyway that’s the point I wanted to make today. The point that all we are feeling for the most part started with feeling alone. Started with being afraid because your alone. Its made worse because life is very scary and facing just one more day ALONE is too much to bare. Now I am not saying that Depression and Anxiety are not also caused by emotional , chemical, and genetic programming but what I am saying is that being ALONE is at the core of all our fears in regards to  this emotional state we are in.  Dear friend and “fellow” sufferer. I want you to really think about that imaginary person (Bob) I told you about. Think about having this person in your life who would carry you over the river and hold your hand when your not sure what to do. Even more this person would have the wisdom to know all the right things to say. They would know everything about you and what would always be in your best interest. I tell you friend - THIS IS what we all need. In fact we can not live this life on planet earth without that person. We are just too weak and frail to make it alone. 

Now the question is- can there really be such a person ? Maybe its someone you know but if your like me- every single person I trusted in to help me has let me down for the most part. No one is always there or even wants to help or can help if they wanted to. So finding this ( forever friend) seems like it wont happen in this world, and the point is its true. There is no one in this dimension and realm who can be that special friend. So the question is - where do we look ? Does one exist outside of time and space ? Maybe its an alien from another galaxy, or maybe some “being” from another planet. Maybe where we need to start looking for help is not found in this world but found in another. Well that would be great you might think but that’s crazy! There is no life out there unless maybe a UFO or something but that’s still just crazy. Well lets get off that idea for a while and instead spend some time Not looking for a super friend but instead lets spend some time star gazing, animal watching, nature looking. See I don’t know about you but I love animals. I love my little dog named buddy. I love flowers, grass, the mountains and the sky at night. I love the ocean and sand of the beach. I love summer and spring and I love birds that fly around. Sometimes I actually look at the birds and become jealous for their freedom and causal life. They have no past to think about and they don’t worry about the future. They just are and only live in the moment. No one owns them and yet somehow they are always taken care of. Someone feeds them and keeps them warm. They always seem to have a home and always seem to be happy. Hey - have you ever seen a depressed bird ? Have you ever saw a bird pacing around biting their fingernails ?  Anyway your assignment until our next session is- to look around and wonder. To look around and wonder about our planet, the animals, the tree’s . Even sit and look at your hand right now. Look at its incredible design and how it works so quickly. How the moment you think a move your hand is already doing that move. Think about your brain and its ability to control all your motor functions without you ever thinking of them. It JUST works and works without a beat.  Anyway I leave you with this thought -

“To be alone, is to live in pain, and to live in pain alone is to have no place left for joy to dwell”  SRK

SR Kraniak Th,B - M.M.C.C.

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Ourselves Alone - Shinfane The Loneliness that hurts so much

Ourselves Alone - Shinfane 

A while back I learned of this term- “Ourselves Alone”. it’s a Gallic Irish term from the Irish rebellion of years gone by. Its pronounced Shin-Fane.  For some reason the term jumped out at me and hit a cord. Ourselves Alone !. I tell you in my whole life I have not feared  anything more then- being alone, living alone, suffering alone growing old alone and dying alone. I think in many ways our pain- Anxiety and Depression; They are a very alone type thing. In depression I have felt very alone as no one really understands what I feel other then others like you and I . But Of anxiety I think that makes me really feel alone. That heavy feeling in my chest, that oppressiveness and darkness. That overwhelming feeling of impending doom. it’s a scary place and an empty place. It is in deep Anxiety or even daily consistent low level anxiety that I feel the most alone. It is in this place of anxiety that I am more prone to run to ANY thing to relive this pain. When I say anything I mean anything as even one minute relief from it is worth it. Which is why we often run quickly to drugs, drink, sex, porn,  cutting, Same sex relationships, Gender manipulation, and/or some self destructive behavior that does ( temporally ) relieve  the pain. The running into the unknown hoping to find the answer. They all offer escape which is why sleeping is the favorite of us all. You know I think I understand how Michael Jackson felt as he would desire to be “put under” by some drug just to simply escape the reality of this life. Sometimes I wish I could be put under and have often felt this sick excitement of going in for some surgery simply because I knew I will be completely out if just for a fleeting few hours. I think this is why many of us run to suicide. It is the escape we all desire when this loneliness comes over like a flood. As to Suicide well the fear that keeps me from it is this- Is it really an escape or maybe just entering something I really know nothing about. What if I find in death that there is no escape at all but an entering into something that I can never escape from. That unknown article has saved me many times from that trip.  So Well I am thankful that I have not went too far with the suicide or I would not be here to share my healing. Anyway the point I want to make today is- overcoming this Loneliness and how it is  the key to overcoming it all. To never be lonely ever ! To not feel alone in a crowded room. To not fear living alone or dying alone. Or worse growing old alone. To not fear simply stepping out of my bedroom.  This my friends is key and it is a loneliness that can only be beaten by a power bigger then just people, circumstances, drugs -legal or illegal , or therapy . Then just a lover or friend can give. Yes we have had those to and still felt the pain of being alone.  Even money cant beat the feeling as we see many celebrities still suffer despite their wealth. -Over the next month we will dig into this issue and then find the ultimate exterminator of this loneliness. I pray you all stick around for this journey..  Relief is coming, healing is coming, and most of all- happiness is coming.

S.R. Kraniak Th,B - M.M.C.C.

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Depression Anxiety and the Child of God pt one and two 

By Yorkshire Press 

Step 1 - Understanding the Monster within

Step One

Understanding the monster within......

Joshua 1:9

Well - here we are. People from all over the planet all suffering with something that up to 20 years ago was a very small parentage of the population. Now its everywhere: men, women, teens, and very young children some as young as five and six years old. Can you imagine dealing with depression and anxiety at that age ?  When I was that age I was playing in the sand box laughing and smiling about life. Well times have changed . This entire world has changed. There seems to be a spirit of fear like a cloud hovering over our collective. Well be that as it may it doesn’t really matter to debate the why as much as the how the Hell do we get out of this mess. For starters we need to identify the monster that has its grip on you. Is it depression from anxiety or anxiety from depression ? Is it environmental ,situational, Chemical, emotional, or seasonal ? Is it something new to you or a life long swim. For the sake of the worst of us lets skip the mild anxiety and ups and downs of life do to finical or situational issues and lets go right to the heart of the worst of it which is…Daily debilitating Anxiety and Depression. We are talking about clinical here which means life doesn’t feel worth living and in fact is a tormenting  chamber of daily horrors. Its dreading getting up and looking forward to going to sleep. Its loving sleep more then life. Its to the point where you can barely get out of bed. Your fear is so overwhelming that you can not eat sleep or think properly. In fact you have forgotten what normal thought patterns are. Its to the point where you don’t even shower often anymore but lay in your bed sweating and turning. Crying and deep weeping are a daily ritual . Thoughts of taking your life and how you will do it become your only passion. You have tried every thing and read every book. You have taken so many different medications you cant remember all their names. The doctors just seem to throw at you more and more and the time it takes for one med to get out of your system and another to kick in is time you don’t have. You have either lost allot of weight or gained allot.  Everyone tells you it will get better and to just snap out of it.  Some accuse you of faking this whole hell life just so you don’t have to deal with your life. They call it your fake excuse. People are tired of asking how you are and you are tired of making up the same old line. You see people laughing and enjoying simple things and it only makes you feel worse. All of your joys and passions mean nothing. For the most part you are alone and very few understand you. Sometimes you just hate yourself and wish you were never born. If there is a god you curse him for forcing you to be tormented this way. Sometimes though you pride yourself on being an agnostic or atheist you have to admit your have gotten so desperate that you actually tried calling out to god to PLEASE heal and help me for the love of life and humanity. Its come to a point where you will try anything to just stop the pain even for five minutes. From sex, self inflicted pain, cutting, homosexuality, maybe even changing your gender. Sometimes you find that getting tattoos make you feel better for a while but there is not much left of you to work on or pierce .Anything - just to find what is causing this deep pain which ironically hovers around your heart area. Your actual chest area is where you feel the cold dark empty pain. Its like someone is trying to steal away your very breath which is hard to catch at times. Drinking, smoking, even S&M have been tried. Meditation and seeing fortunetellers- you even visited a witch.    When it got real bad and god didn’t listen you might have called out to any deity out there. Maybe even dabbling in the occult just to find an answer if not a cure. As to Life you just want to laugh, run , play and enjoy what everyone else seems to enjoy. It has gotten so bad that you cant even function enough to even hold down the simplest job; to travel, drive or go anywhere which leaves you with no money to live. Being homeless crosses your mind if your not already there. Of love and romance well that’s a distant dream as who would want someone such as you. Looking at your self in the mirror is like looking at a stranger you never knew. When compliments are giving you know they are nothing but a kiss through a veil.  More and more of the people you know are dying from overdoes or suicide and you wonder what the hell is going on. The news of the day is so depressing that you wonder what your are staying alive for anyway. You are at the end of the end and as suicide seems to be the only out yet that to scares you as you wonder if it really is the ultimate escape from the pain or and entrance into a dimension you might not want to encounter.  

Dear friend and fellow sufferer- I know many of these thoughts and pains. I have walked in many of these dark black shoes and yet  I have broken through to the other side of living. I have escaped it though it chases me like a rabid dog at times biting at my heals. YET- Yet I am free and so can you be. So Today I just wanted to get a feel for where your at and what your going through. If any of the words I spoke hit you strongly then maybe what I have to say is worth a listen. 

Listen- I am a friend, one who cares, one who wants to share what I learned so others never have to live another day in this demonic spiral of decay. 

What I ask- well what I ask is this. Is to listen. To get some other people you know who are suffering. To get together and see if what I have to say is true or a lie. If a lie then you wont be any worse off then you already are but IF true…well imagine the outcome. Imagine a MIRACAL !   Now what I also need you to do is to trust me for I will ask you to try things you never tried before. Something’s might sound strange and repulsive to your intellect and educational level. But let me ask you this - if you were walking along a wooded glen and stepped into a bear trap with it slowly closing harder and harder on your leg, and then some person came over and said- “in order to be set free you must say the word (Shin-fane) then blink your eyes three times and cry out ( the moon is a jar ).  Now though it would sound bizarre would you not at least try it ? You would be a fool not to as silly as it sounded. Well I wont ask you to say the moon is a jar or say Shin-Fane which by the way is Gaelic for Ourselves Alone. But I will give you real truth and real answers that if you truly believe against all logic and reason - well you will begin to slowly break free from the chains of darkness. 

So I will wait a few more days and see if anyone is interested. See if I can bring just one person healing and truth then all of this would be worth it to me.

So fight on one more day. Get excited that maybe this darkness can be gone and lifted. No tricks, no gimmicks .

Your fellow friend 

S.R. Kraniak Th.B- M.M.C.C.

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Depression Anxiety and the Child of God -Part 1 - Yorkshire Publishers

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HELP ME I AM Slowly dying !!! Ever feel like that ?

Help- I am slowly dying and drowning at the same time...

I can't breath another bit of this vile air that's called Anxiety and Depression.

If you have ever felt like this or feel like it right now.. Please stand by because in the next few days we will be getting out the knife and cutting away the pain one layer at a time. When we are done we will be able to breath and start fresh living this thing they call life in the year 2017

Together we will walk through the valley of the shadow of death and enter into the promise land.

All that I ask is that you get everyone you know who is suffering this hell and tell them to get on board and follow this blog over the next few days..

Love ya all

S.R. Kraniak Th,B -M.M.C.C.

NY USA

Been through the fire - will share my fire suit

OK here are the Life Changing Books...a 1 - 2 punch at Anxiety and Depression

Dear friends and fellow sufferers...

I did not write these 2 books to get rich but to show you from MY OWN LIFE  struggle how I was able to live a happy normal life again...Also it is not just a bunch of God stuff but real answers through Gods help through many different methods...

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I know the pain.. of Anxiety and Depression and Suicide...

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Attention... Both of my books on Depression and Anxiety are now published by Yorkshire Publishers

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